Why do people self-harm?

Dr. Rameez Shaikh
3 min readFeb 2, 2024

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Why do people self-harm?

Self-harm refers to intentionally inflicting harm or injury on oneself, often as a way to cope with emotional pain, stress, or internal struggles. It is a maladaptive coping mechanism and a sign of emotional distress. Self-harm can manifest in various forms, and it’s important to note that it is a serious issue requiring professional support. Here are some examples of self-harming behaviors:

Cutting or Scratching: Using a sharp object to cut or scratch the skin, often resulting in visible wounds. Common areas include the wrists, arms, thighs, or abdomen.

Burning: Applying heat, such as using a lighter or hot object, to the skin to cause burns. This can lead to blistering and scarring.

Biting: Biting oneself, which can cause bruises, open wounds, or broken skin.

Hitting or Punching: Striking oneself with fists or objects, leading to bruises or injuries.

Hair-Pulling (Trichotillomania): Pulling out one’s hair, often in response to stress or anxiety. This can result in noticeable hair loss.

Head-Banging or Self-Hitting: Repeatedly hitting one’s head against a hard surface or hitting oneself in other ways, potentially causing injuries.

Ingesting Harmful Substances: Swallowing or ingesting harmful substances, including non-food items or substances that can cause harm.

Excessive Risk-Taking: Engaging in dangerous activities or behaviors without regard for personal safety, potentially leading to harm.

Interfering with Wound Healing: Continually picking at scabs or wounds, preventing them from healing properly and potentially causing infections.

Carving or Tattooing: Using sharp objects to carve words, symbols, or images onto the skin, often leaving permanent marks.

Self-harm is a complex behavior that can be influenced by a variety of factors. It’s crucial to approach this topic with sensitivity, recognizing that individual motivations for self-harm can vary widely. Here are some common reasons why someone might engage in self-harm:

1. Emotional Regulation:

Coping Mechanism: Some individuals use self-harm as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions, stress, or difficult situations. It may provide temporary relief or serve as a way to regain a sense of control.

2. Communication of Distress:

Expressing Pain: Self-harm can be a way for individuals to express emotional pain or internal struggles that may be difficult to communicate verbally.

3. Emotional Numbness:

Feeling Something: Some individuals engage in self-harm to counter feelings of emotional numbness or detachment. The physical pain can serve as a way to feel something when emotions seem muted.

4. Self-Punishment:

Guilt and Shame: Individuals may use self-harm as a form of self-punishment, often driven by feelings of guilt, shame, or a negative self-perception.

5. Communication of Inner Turmoil:

Visible Expression: For some, self-harm may serve as a visible expression of internal turmoil, allowing them to communicate their struggles to others.

6. Cognitive Distortion:

Negative Thought Patterns: Distorted thinking patterns, such as a pervasive negative self-image or beliefs of unworthiness, can contribute to self-harm behaviors.

7. Release of Tension:

Physical Expression: Engaging in self-harm may be a physical outlet for overwhelming emotional tension, providing a way to release pent-up feelings.

8. Control and Autonomy:

Regaining Control: Individuals who feel a lack of control in their lives may use self-harm as a means of regaining a sense of control or autonomy over their bodies.

9. Communication of Need:

Seeking Help: Some individuals engage in self-harm to communicate their need for help, hoping that visible wounds will prompt others to intervene.

10. Impulse Control Issues:

Difficulty Managing Impulses: Challenges in impulse control, often associated with certain mental health conditions, can contribute to self-harming behaviors.

It’s important to note that self-harm is often a sign of underlying emotional distress, and individuals who engage in such behaviors may benefit from professional support and intervention. Mental health professionals can help address the root causes, provide coping strategies, and offer support in developing healthier ways to manage emotions and challenges. If you or someone you know is struggling with self-harm, it’s essential to seek help from mental health professionals, counselors, or support networks.

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Dr. Rameez Shaikh
Dr. Rameez Shaikh

Written by Dr. Rameez Shaikh

Consultant Psychiatrist, Psychotherapist and Sexologist at Mind & Mood Clinic, Nagpur

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